"When a child is hit on the buttocks...this kind of violent touch can be sexualized in the child's mind not only because of a real flow of blood into the genitalia, but also because of a longing for intimacy with the parent: if painful physical touch is the only fulfillment of that longing, then this can `feel good'." - (1995) Shere Hite, sex researcher, sociopsychologist. The Hite Report on the Family.
"Frequent spankings, too, may have a negative impact on sex development. Because of the proximity of the sex organs, a child may get sexually aroused when spanked. Or he may so enjoy the making up that follows the punishment that he will seek suffering as a necessary prelude to love." (1966) Dr. Haim G. Ginott, child psychologist. Between Parent and Child.
Bad boys will not be able to squirm away with their feet hoisted to the ceiling. Observe the red bottom of this submissive - his fleshy ass was exposed so perfectly for Her to whack. His hands, tied behind his head. He watched Her delivering the whacks.... And he enjoyed it.
Do you wish you were on Mistress's lap? Your bare ass arched high over Her thigh? Would you wiggle against Her leg?? Kick and scream? Maybe try to get away??
Or, how about while chained over the Spanking Horse. She'll force you to watch yourself in the mirror. Perhaps even force you to touch yourself, while She spanks you for your dirty thoughts...
Be aware: Mistress can leave red welts in the shape of Her hand. Your pain will be real!
Or, do you prefer methodical spanking with a firm, stern reprimand? That can be arranged. Maybe with Corner-Time in between sets. Success means reducing you to tears, hearing you beg for forgiveness, and promising to never do that bad thing again.
If Mistress decides your repentance is sincere, She may ease up on your punishment.... She may rub cooling lotion on your bottom, Might even console you through the pain... Because She really does adore you, She might even feel bad for having to inflict such pain, But it is for your own good - you know that!
And She won't regret punishing you however, you probably need to be taught a harsh lesson that may be long overdue...
Should spanking not inflict the kind of pain She desires, you can expect strapping AND paddling! You will be made to lie across the spanking bench or bed or massage table told to brace yourself: whack! Sets of five or ten - She has one client that requires sets of sixty! If you are really bad, She'll just spank furiously without restraint!
If it appears that you still have not been broken, then you will get MORE! Maybe with some Corner-Time in between sets.
She loves it when you cry and beg!
And remember: no one will hear you.
Sobbing Therapy...
The point of sobbing is to rid yourself of unwanted suppressed emotions. Accompanied with the right unrelenting form of mental distress, physical pain often elicits the desired emotional release. The problem for many is the marking traditional punishments tend to leave on the flesh.
Of course, there are ways to endure discomfort without the usual accompanying marks; Bladder/Bowel Domination, the endurance of Forced Fluid/Enema intake, (think ‘holding it in/taking it in,) or accommodation of a too-large dildo may help to get you there.
Physical pain alone however, is rarely enough to induce sobbing – the best results are often elicited with just the right form of mental angst.
You may want to reveal your most shameful fear, fantasy or experience for which you can be raked over the coals psychologically. She will dig out the details (perhaps starting with some Mock Hypnotherapy?) ridicule and punish you to the breaking point.
Hi Veronika,
I just wanted to drop you a short note to say "Thank You" for a very sound, and much needed spanking yesterday. I still have some marks and a few fingerprints from your bare hand to serve as a reminder to behave.....at least for a while.
That was a very good spanking, and I will be looking forward to seeing you again soon. Take care.
HairBrush
Dear Mistress Veronika, you may remember our session last month. I am the guy from Sydney to whom you administered a hard hand spanking. The bruises were there one week later! That was a great session and I really hoped to have another with you before I left but unfortunately we spent most of the remainder of the trip inland and only returned to Vancouver to fly home. I have now had more time to study your great website and next time hope to explore the adult-baby theme further. thanks once again. hope to see you soon, Ricardo
Hi Mistress, I have to tell you I have played around in the Vancouver pro Dome scene since 1985, and you are definately right up there at the top. You are classy, smart, beautiful and fun, I never had one uneasy feeling in your presence. And in 20 plus years, I have met quite a number of domes in vancouver. And you are definately a very good spanker Veronika! Speedo-Spanky
* The following scenario turned out great - enjoyed by B/both Mistress & Sub *
My dear Ms. Harley, I need an evil bitch for the following fantasy? Might be little too domestic for you - BUT - you get to inflict LOTS of pain and fear. Here goes: Could you offer up a scene of "Mom" greeting her naughty teenager with the news that he is in big trouble? Pointing to the stairway you'll say, "Upstairs to the bedroom where I will show you what happens if you get in trouble at school!"
You follow me up the stairway, and as I enter the bedroom you enter behind and close the door. 'Now this is just between us, and nobody needs to know what's going to happen in this room. Ok?'
So I nod my agreement, and you tell me sternly to get prepared for a good licking, then collect the implements you need and lay them out on the bed. You lecture me as I strip for the spanking ahead. That you're not doing it out of anger, but with compassion and great care. Discipline is not a punishment, it is a reminder of a loving authority figure who makes the rules, controls and expects absolute obedience.
Pulling up your chair, you order me over your lap for a long hard handspanking ...My bare and quivering bottom is under your hand. The slaps begin to fall, first slowly, although always sternly. You are teaching me a lesson. As the intensity grows, your voice reminds me why I have to be brave and endure it. It is for my own good.
I begin to squirm but you hold me firmly - there is no way to avoid the slaps. "You won't remember the lesson if it doesn't hurt... and I'm going to teach you a very good lesson Kevin! Now stop squirming or I'll use the wooden spoon on you!"
So I stop squirming, but you reach for the spoon anyway. This really produces cries and pleas.. 'You said you wouldn't use it on me if behaved, ' etc. but sometimes that's what is needed.
'I sincerely care for your well being. A good discipline session will put you in your place and your sore bottom will keep you there for hours, days and even weeks after. So squirming and struggling, I get sentenced to six more whacks in rapid succession.
Now you let me up but the lesson hasnt been learned, I havent cried yet. The most severe way to discipline a disobedient boy is through caning. You lay out a long high bolster on the end of the bed and say... "On the bed and lift your bottom up high... I'm going to give you a licking you won't soon forget." You drag it out a bit, with admonishments like 'I hope you're learning a good lesson from this!' and give me a very hot one, using a collection of straps and tawses. Next comes a caning... with me bent over a chair. At the end, you tell me Daddy will be home soon to give me the "strapping of my life" You finish by applying a soothing lotion to my very red ass.
Let me know what you think! Luv K.D.
He then sent Me a follow-up e-mail…
My Dear Ms. Harley:
Wow! Yesterday was the best OTK spanking I've EVER had! Thank you, thank you, thank you! Yes, I was a little shy but you'll whip that out of me the next time I'm sure. Hugs, K.D.
SPANKED FOR MOTIVATION!
For those of you that need Mistress to punish and re-focus you on those problem areas in your life. Hard over-the-knee spanking for not getting to work on time this week, for not sticking to your diet and work-out regime, for being a victim of sloth, greed, or lust. A good hiding will get you motivated to clean your apartment or organizing your office. Mistress is here now, don't worry - She'll drive out that laziness!
"I was thinking of spanking therapy for procrastination, perhaps 30 minutes? I'm supposed to be writing a dissertation, and can't get it going .... Spending too much time chatting to people in Yahoo and checking out porn online…”
Later that night, after O/our session, he wrote:
“Mistress, many thanks for the wonderful treatment I received tonight. I got what I deserved and am ready to move on to more painful experiences. I have never felt so relaxed as I do after my punishment session with you tonight. You were fantastic and so gracious to punish me so well. I have done some work on my dissertation, as requested by Yourself. I do hope I'll have another opportunity to present my bottom for your chastisement.”
“My most productive day in months! I'm coming back for more, Mistress!”
Dear Mistress,
thank you for the conversation a little while ago. i hasten to write again about my fantasy. But first let me introduce myself.
i am 66, a free lance journalist and have been submissive since i was a teenager. i am married but unfortunately my wife is not dominant. 6'3", some overweight, rather pathetic cock. i have a slave collar with me - and nipple clamps. I will wear them to our session.
My problem is that i can't cease looking at womens’ breasts although i feel it is strongly forbidden. my fantasy then is as follows: i am standing near you in a lift in a department store and look down into your cleavage. When we get out of the lift you ask me in a rather low voice if you have given me permission to look. When i answer no, you slap my face for all to see. You then say i must come to your studio as soon as possible for my punishment. When i enter you immediately order me to stand on my knees and repeat the slap in my face.
Hand spanking and scolding is at the top, to be sure - For constantly looking at breasts! You took it upon yourself to represent all the women i have harassed by that kind of looking. You have observed me doing that a number of times so you decided to teach me a lesson.
Spankings should be very hard, mainly by hand if possible. If caning/strapping is necessary to really make me cry, i have to take that also. Marks are absolutely ok but please only on the buttocks. My wife is not checking my bottom. I just hope the marks won't last more than a few days... i just ask that the harder you spank, please also the more slowly - so i can feel the sting of each blow...
i am looking forward to your sobbing therapy. i have quite a lot of experience but still i am not sure how much i can take of strapping etc. i ask that you begin with a long drawn out spanking by hand over your lap. If that is not enough to make me cry, please continue as you see fit. I am serious about my wish to really be made to cry. I think crying might come easier in my case if you combine spanking with explaining in a loving, 'motherly' tone that the pain is only for my own good - and that you have to persist until you have reached your goal. Of course i would be most grateful for your consolation after you have made me cry! I have been longing to experience this for so long... after having transformed your slave into a large cry-baby, you console him by letting him suck your breast until he stops crying...
i also fantasize about being taken with a strap-on. i have already been subjected to that also, sometimes successful, sometimes not. i have found that i can more easily accept the penetration if i am allowed to lie on my back with legs high in the air... if you find it interesting to take me with the strap-on, please do.
One more fantasy comes to mind but it is one which i think is unlikely to be realized. After you have punished me and made me cry i would find it extremely exciting if a friend of yours were to turn up unexpectedly and you would show me off to her - or even him, but preferrably her. That would more humiliating than anything. Yours truly, X
Dear Veronika,
As I mentioned, I am “the kid that got away with everything” when I was growing up. Both at home, and at school I was often warned or threatened with “a good sound spanking”…..but I always managed to avoid it somehow. I was a particular brat with an Aunt, who would often look after me. She did threaten to turn me over her knee and spank my bare bottom till I couldn’t sit for a few days more than once, but she never did. Her other threat was to lay me on the bed and give me a good strapping, but again, she never did. I often wondered what it would have been like if she had followed through with her threats. There was one time when I thought I was going to get that spanking she kept promising. I had come home late from my playing with friends, and had mouthed off to her when she scolded me for it. My Aunt took me to her bedroom, pulled me over her knee, and gave me about a dozen swats with her hand on the seat of my jeans…..which I barely felt at the time. Again, she threatened to take my pants down and really give me a good one, if I ever did that again. I was 12 years old at that time, and looking back, I think she should have done what she kept promising. What I’m looking for is someone who would be able to give me that well deserved spanking. My idea of a good spanking is one that will leave me with a very red and sore bare bottom. Perhaps when we do meet, you can question me about the things I got away with, and talk me into admitting I need a good old fashioned bare bottom spanking, at which point you would take complete control in giving me one. If you would be interested in doing this, I’d like to arrange a time and date with you. Yours truly, Slave Hair-Brush
HE THEN WROTE AFTER THE SESSION…..
Hi Veronika, I just wanted to drop you a short note to say "Thank You" for a very sound, and much needed spanking yesterday. I still have some marks and a few fingerprints from your bare hand to serve as a reminder to behave.....at least for a while. That was a very good spanking, and I will be looking forward to seeing you again soon. Take care. Slave Hair-Brush
Mistress Veronika,
I have seen your site and do not know just where to start to express what I feel and would like in part because I am shy and in many other ways what I truly need would be very embarrassing and humiliating.I will try to put it all in words as best as I can, but first a little about me. I am male age 43 was never spanked really other then a few smacks on my bottom here and there but never anything formal as what my friends got as kids like being put over the lap and getting spanked that way or getting the belt and in one case a girl I knew who's mother was I think a teacher as I recall things. And her mother used a school strap on her. How do I know it was a school strap? Because one day while playing we went inside and all I clearly remember is playing hide and seek and I was hiding in a closet. And when I was found this black thing fell down from a shelf or from the back of the door and I asked what this was. Her reply was, we were both 11 or 12 years old or so. She said to me "when I am bad mommy spanks me with that ". And there was a comment that her mom brought it home from school and some other comment that this is what all the kids get spanked with at school. This just stuck with me forever and still remember it was black and rubber like strap. My childhood growing up around her was very profoundly effected in ways that I would never have ever thought of in my later years or into my early adult years. Yours Truly, a new submissive
